Nowadays research has shown that it is likely that every other marriage will end in divorce. In other words, there is only a 50% chance that a marriage will stay intact. Surely, this fact sounds very discouraging and depressing. While on the other, everybody deserves to be happy, which is not possible in a loveless relationship. So, once it happens, what comes after divorce? One thing is for certain, there will be a relocation in your cards. Divorce people under one roof are a recipe for disaster. Thus, here are a few things that you must prepare yourself for.
After divorce, many look forward to their relocation
This might sound odd. After all, who looks forward to the annoyance of moving? But, in this case, moving can be perceived as a new chapter in your life. A new start that you so desperately might need and want. However, we cannot ignore the most important factor, which is your children. If you do not have children, this relocation might go much smoother. In case you do, you must be prepared for a tougher time. Not always, but sometimes there are difficulties when moving with a kid post-divorce. So, prepare yourself to be strong for you and your child during your first relocation after ending your marriage.
You might need to hire legal counsel
Going through an amicable divorce is a dream. Yet, it is very rare. Occasionally a divorce can turn into a full-on battle between the two partners, where kids tend to be stuck in the middle. Usually, in that case, emotions are flying high and all over the place. The best-case scenario would be to settle everything through mitigation. In those instances where mitigation fails, be prepared to go to court. Be prepared to hire a divorce lawyer that will guide you through the entire process.
Your support system is a key
You will need lots of support and handholding from your dear friends and family. People that love you will be in your corner with advice, moving help, or whatever you may need. Don’t hesitate to ask for help. It is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. It will show your willingness to overcome something difficult and to move on with your life.
You are your kids’ number one supporter after divorce
After divorce kids of all ages tend to go through a rough time. They will feel loss, instability, and many other negative feelings which will most likely affect their mood and attitude. Always do your best to be there for them and to be understanding. Moving out of their childhood home might be particularly rough for them. Also, you as a parent should be prepared to justify your moving in court. When giving arguments for relocation post-divorce, make sure your kids are your main drive. For instance, being a new homeowner and settling down in a great neighborhood with impeccable schools and an even better support system is a great argument. It shows your dedication as a parent towards your kid’s future.
Don’t expect this transition to be easy. Life after divorce can certainly be a breath of fresh air, but not in the beginning. Even if you initiated the divorce, don’t expect to cruise peacefully through divorce waters. You will have ups and downs, which is normal. Do your best to be positive as much as possible. You never know what a new beginning in your life can lead to. Very soon you might wonder why you didn’t go through this sooner. A sense of liberation is right around the corner.